Someone recently left decorations on my daughter's grave that stained her headstone. I was beside myself. Would it be wrong to set rules on what people can leave when visiting my daughter? Can I tell them to stay away?

Dear Abby advises a family who lost their daughter two years ago that wants to know what the rules of etiquette are when it comes to visiting her grave site.

One family member opens cards that have been left there for my daughter, and puts all sorts of cheap decorations around her grave. Recently, they put decorations directly on her gravestone which

We lost our 16-year-old daughter two years ago to leukemia. It’s been a difficult two years. I am writing to ask if there are rules of etiquette for